“I can’t believe he said that to me!!
” How could she do that? I thought she cared about me.”
“I have been so hurt in my past, I just can’t trust people.”
Have you ever heard yourself saying something like the above statements? And then stay in the unhappiness of those thoughts or statements. Well you aren’t alone. Most of us have all allowed our own happiness to be impacted by: what someone else says or does, what we think about what they did, and allowing our past experiences with people all to influence our moods.
In this 3 part “Juicy Tips Moments” you will learn the 3 myths we tell ourselves that often keep us unhappy and tips on what you can do to change it around.
Watch Part 2 video to find out the second myth and what you can do about it, or keep reading below.
The 2nd Myth that we often tell ourselves that ends up keeping us unhappy is that “What I think about this situation is the truth.” Actually we really don’t say this to ourselves but we do believe it and then end up acting on it.
If you walked into a situation and saw two friends talking, they looked your way and then looked back at each other and started laughing a possible thought that might go through your head would be something like, “hey I thought they were my friends but they are laughing at me.” This may be a simple example and may not be exactly what you would think but the reality is that we are constantly putting our interpretations on all the different situations we encounter through out our day.
The way we tend to work as human beings, is that we believe that our thought must be the truth.
But is it?
Not necessarily. It is just our thought. And there are more steps that can be taken rather than stick to our negative thought and let that thought become the thing that changes our mood and influences our happiness.
Here are the 3 steps of what to do with that negative thought before it soaks in too deep:
1) Give the other person the benefit of the doubt. Bring in your empathy in the situation.
2) Don’t assume your thought is correct and don’t stick to your interpretation. Check it out!
3) Take their word for it. If you are going to the trouble to ask what they were doing or what they meant by something they said or did then accept their answer. What good does it do to ask and then stick to your own interpretation. If you are going to do that then don’t ask and just stay in your negative thought. Your negative thought doesn’t serve or help you. And asking them but not believing them and staying in your negative thought also doesn’t help you. So take their word for it.
So that is myth #2. You don’t have to stick to your negative thought as the truth. Check it out and learn more or do what you need to do so you don’t stay stuck in that thought, because it will ultimately impact your happiness.
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